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Unit 1
Unit 1
Knowing me, knowing you
Interpersonal relationships
To learn words that describe behaviour towards others.
To learn to deal with interpersonal relationship problems.
To be able to ask for a favour and refuse politely.
When we mention of happy and healthy relationships, what words will appear in your mind
relationships
generous
understand
…
criticise
complain
honest
Read the tips and underline the words that describe behaviour towards others.
forgive; apologise
criticise
lie
judge
complain
Describe the situations with the words you underlined just now.
1. I’m really sorry. I didn’t mean it. _________
2. You’re so selfish! _________
3. I know you’re sorry. It’s OK. Don’t worry about it. _________
4. I can tell he is not easy to get along with. _________
5. I don’t want to wait for him all the time. _________
6. My pet parrot flew away with my homework. _________
apologise
criticise
forgive
judge
complain
lie
Can you add more tips for happy and healthy relationships
It’s a good idea to be generous with others. This can help create a lasting friendship.
Try to communicate openly with your friends. Don’t always keep things to yourself.
It’s important to laugh. Smiling and laughing will make you and others feel better.
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Discuss what you should do in the following situations and explain your reasons.
1. You forgot your best friend’s birthday, and you feel bad about it.
I’ll make up for forgetting my friend’s birthday by crafting an apology to him. This shows I put some thought and effort into correcting my memory lapse. I think this will be meaningful.
2. Your neighbour always makes a lot of noise late at night. You cannot stand it.
I’ll react in the following ways:
Talk to my neighbour about it.
Rearrange the furniture in my room.
Install acoustic tiles.
Soundproof my windows.
Insulate the floor.
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3. I slipped at art class and split some paint on my classmate’s favourite jeans.
I’ll react in the following ways:
Tell my classmate I’m very sorry at once.
Offer to clean his or her jeans as soon as possible.
Buy him or her a new pair of jeans if necessary.
If it is OK with him, I can draw a bit to correct my splitting into a kind of artwork.
4. Your friends have asked you to watch a boxing match with them, but you don’t like boxing.
I’ll react in the following ways:
I’ll decline his invitation politely without hurting his feelings.
Offer an alternative time to get together.
Turn my regrets into a sandwich.
5. Your colleague says that a person’s sex matters a lot in the workplace, but you don’t agree.
I’ll react in the following ways:
I’ll state my opinions politely without hurting his feelings.
Give some examples to support my opinions.
We can seek common ground and reserve differences on this issue.
Did you know what EQ and IQ are Which one do you think plays a more important part in our lives Watch the video and get the main idea.
How to say no politely
Emotional quotient (EQ), or emotional intelligence quotient, is a measurement of the ability to recognise one’s own and other people’s emotions.
It is believed that EQ plays an even more important role than IQ (intelligence quotient) in people’s lives. Being able to say no politely is one of the features of emotional intelligence.
Listen to three conversations and match them to the pictures.
Answers: a—2; b—3;c—1
Kerry thinks that 2____________ is too long. Tina is welcome to stay for 3_____________.
Listen again and complete the table.
Request
Refusal
1
Tina has to leave her flat 1__________. She wants to stay at Kerry’s place.
Request
next week
one month
a few days
Ryan cannot come, because he has to 6________________ to New York at the weekend.
Request
Mike invites Ryan to 4___________________ on 5_________.
Request
Refusal
come to the party
Saturday
prepare for the trip
2
Becky refuses because she thinks it is better for Jane to 8_______________________.
Request
Jane would like to see Becky’s 7__________ for some ideas.
Request
Refusal
project
do her project by herself
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Now talk about how the speakers make requests and refusals. Listen again if necessary.
requests
asking someone to do something for you
asking if you can do something
refusals
direct refusals
indirect refusals
vague refusals
Could / Can you …
Would you mind …
May I ask you to …
Oh you mean, …
Umm, not exactly…
I’m afraid…
Oh…I’d love to, but I’m…
Oh no…That’s too bad.
I was just wondering if you could…
I’m sorry that it just doesn’t feel right. Maybe we can…
If you have to say no to a request, your refusal will sound more polite if you begin with a statement of regret, such as I’m sorry…, I’d really like to, but… Then explain why your answer is no, eg I’m really busy right now. If possible, suggest an alternative – How about next week
Work in pairs. Act out the conversation about asking for a favour and refusing politely.
Student A
You will go on a trip with your family for two weeks and you would like to ask Student B to take care of your pet cat. Explain to him / her:
You’d like to send your pet cat to his / her flat to stay for 2 weeks.
Your cat is well-behaved and won’t make any trouble.
You will treat him / her to dinner when you come back.
Useful expressions
Have you got a minute
Hello…! Just the person I wanted to see.
Well, the thing is…
I was just wondering if you could…
I promise…
Oh, come on, please…
Student B
Student A would like you to do him / her a favour. You have to refuse politely. Explain to him / her:
You don’t want your room to be messy.
Your parents won’t allow it.
You know another classmate who likes cats and maybe he / she would like to help.
Useful expressions
What’s up
Oh, you mean…
I’m afraid…
I’m sorry, but…
I think it would be better to…
But maybe…
Think of another situation and have a similar conversation.
Saying no when you just don’t feel like doing something.
Saying no because you are not free.
Saying no to a situation that makes you uncomfortable.
Saying no to something that is wrong or illegal.
Techniques to say NO
Excuse yourself plainly.
Make a counter-offer.
Make another suggestion.
Have humility.
Speak in an honest way.
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Here is the situation: You need to go out at once because you have a date with your friend at the movie theatre. However, your mum asks you to help her do some cleaning. You want to say No to your mum. Make up a conversation between you and your mum.
Preview the next part: Developing ideas.