(共15张PPT)
Using language(2)—Listening and speaking
By the end of this period, you will be able to:
learn to deal with interpersonal relationship problems;
ask for a favour and refuse politely.
Lead-in
Lead-in
What do you know about EQ and IQ Which one is more important in your daily life
Saying no politely
If one of your friends wants to borrow something that you are not willing to share, how do you say “no” politely
Listen to three conversations and match them to the pictures.
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Listening
Listen again and complete the table.
Request Refusal
1 Tina has to leave her flat 1____. She wants to stay at Kerry’s place. Kerry thinks that 2 ________ is too long. Tina is welcome to stay for
3 __________.
2 Mike invites Ryan to 4__________ on 5____________ Ryan cannot come, because he has to 6______ to New York at the weekend.
3 Jane would like to see Beck’s 7___________ for some ideas. Becky refuses because she thinks it is better for Jane to 8 ___________.
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Request Refusal
1 Tina has to leave her flat 1_________. She wants to stay at Kerry’s place. Kerry thinks that 2 ________ is too long. Tina is welcome to stay for
3 __________.
2 Mike invites Ryan to 4_________________________ on 5____________ Ryan cannot come, because he has to 6__________________ to New York at the weekend.
3 Jane would like to see Beck’s 7_________ for some ideas. Becky refuses because she thinks it is better for Jane to
8 _____________________.
Check your answers.
next week
one month
a few days
come to the party
Saturday
prepare for the trip
project
do her project by herself
Now talk about how the speakers make requests and refusals. Listen again if necessary.
requests
asking someone to do something for you
asking if you can do something
refusals
direct refusals
indirect refusals
vague refusals
模糊的
Learning to learn
If you have to say no to a request, your refusal will sound more polite if you begin with a statement of regret, such as I’m sorry…, I’d really like to, but… Then explain why your answer is no, eg I’m really busy right now. If possible, suggest an alternative—How about next week
Student A:
You’ll go on a trip with your family for two weeks and you would like to ask Student B to take care of your pet cat. Explain to him/her.
Student B:
Student A would like you to do him/her a favour. You have to refuse politely. Explain to him/her.
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Work in pairs. Act out the conversation about asking for a favour and refusing politely.
Could / Can you…
Would you mind…
May I ask you to…
Oh, you mean, …
Um not exactly…
I’m afraid…
Oh…I’d love to, but I’m…
Oh no…That’s too bad.
I was just wondering if you could…
I’m sorry that it just doesn’t feel right. But maybe we can…
Useful expressions
Techniques to say NO
Excuse yourself plainly.
Make a counter-offer.
Make another suggestion.
Have humility.
Speak in an honest way.
n.谦逊
Conversation 1
Tina: Hi Kerry, have you got a minute
Kerry: Yeah, sure, Tina. What’s up
Tina: Well, the thing is, I’ve got to leave my flat next week, but my new place won’t be ready until next month. Could I stay at your place for a while
Kerry: You mean for a couple of days
Tina: Er...not exactly. For a month.
Kerry: A month I’m afraid one month is just too long.
Tina: Oh, come on, please...
Kerry: I’m sorry, but my room is just too small for two people.
You’re welcome to stay for a few days, though.
Listening material
Conversation 2
Mike: Hello Ryan! Just the person I wanted to see!
Ryan: Hi Mike. How’s it going
Mike: I’m having a party at my house on Saturday. You’ll come, won’t you
Ryan: On Saturday I’d love to, but I’m visiting my cousin in New York on Monday, and I have to spend the weekend preparing for the trip.
Mike: That’s too bad. I’m sorry you miss it.
Ryan: Yes, I’m sorry, too. Next time, OK
Conversation 3
Jane: Becky, have you done your project yet
Becky: Hi Jane. You mean the one that’s due tomorrow
Jane: Yes, that’s the one.
Becky: Of course I have. Haven’t you finished yours yet
Jane: No, I haven’t. The thing is, I’ve been really busy and… Well, I was just wondering if you could let me see your project, just to give me some ideas, you know...
Becky: I’m not sure... It would be better to do your project by yourself.
Jane: I promise I won’t copy it or anything like that.
Becky: I’m sorry, Jane, it just doesn’t fell right. I’d be happy to talk about your project with you, though, if you need my help.