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Interpersonal relationships
Unit 1 Knowing me, knowing you
Listening and Speaking
To learn words that describe behaviour towards others.
To learn to deal with interpersonal relationship problems.
To be able to ask for a favour and refuse politely.
Learning objectives
When we mention of happy and healthy relationships, what words will appear in your mind
relationships
generous
understand
…
criticise
complain
honest
Read the tips and underline the words that describe behaviour towards others.
forgive; apologise
criticise
lie
judge
complain
Try to forgive someone when they apologise. It’s
not easy for anyone to say sorry.
1
It’s not a good idea to criticise someone in front
of others. This can cause embarrassment.
2
It’s important to tell the truth. Don’t lie.
3
Don’t judge someone too quickly. It takes time to
understand a person.
4
Don’t always complain about people. Try to look on the bright side.
5
Don’t judge a book by its cover.
Describe the situations with the words you underlined just now.
1. I’m really sorry. I didn’t mean it. _________
2. You’re so selfish! _________
3. I know you’re sorry. It’s OK. Don’t worry about it. _________
4. I can tell he is not easy to get along with. _________
5. I don’t want to wait for him all the time. _________
6. My pet parrot flew away with my homework. _________
apologise
criticise
forgive
judge
complain
lie
It’s a good idea to communicate openly and honestly.
Keep in mind that good fences make good neighbors.
It is of great importance to resolve conflicts respectfully.
It is wise never to lie.
Brainstorm: other tips for happy and healthy relationships.
Discuss what you should do in the following situations and explain your reasons.
1. You forgot your best friend’s birthday, and you feel bad about it.
I’ll make up for forgetting my friend’s birthday by crafting an apology to him. This shows I put some thought and effort into correcting my memory lapse. I think this will be meaningful.
2. Your neighbour always makes a lot of noise late at night. You cannot stand it.
I’ll react in the following ways:
Talk to my neighbour about it.
Rearrange the furniture in my room.
Install acoustic tiles.
Soundproof my windows.
Insulate the floor.
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3. I slipped at art class and split some paint on my classmate’s favourite jeans.
I’ll react in the following ways:
Tell my classmate I’m very sorry at once.
Offer to clean his or her jeans as soon as possible.
Buy him or her a new pair of jeans if necessary.
If it is OK with him, I can draw a bit to correct my splitting into a kind of artwork.
4. Your friends have asked you to watch a boxing match with them, but you don’t like boxing.
I’ll react in the following ways:
I’ll decline his invitation politely without hurting his feelings.
Offer an alternative time to get together.
Turn my regrets into a sandwich.
5. Your colleague says that a person’s sex matters a lot in the workplace, but you don’t agree.
I’ll react in the following ways:
I’ll state my opinions politely without hurting his feelings.
Give some examples to support my opinions.
We can seek common ground and reserve differences on this issue.
Did you know what EQ and IQ are Which one do you think plays a more important part in our lives Watch the video and get the main idea.
How to say no politely
Emotional quotient (EQ), or emotional intelligence quotient, is a measurement of the ability to recognise one’s own and other people’s emotions. It is believed that EQ plays an even more important role than IQ (intelligence quotient) in people’s lives. Being able to say no politely is one of the features of emotional intelligence.
Listen to three conversations and match them to the pictures.
Conversation 2
Conversation 3
Conversation 1
Listen again and complete the table.
Request Refusal
1 Tina has to leave her flat 1 _____________. She wants to stay at Kerry’s place. Kerry thinks that 2 __________ is too long. Tina is welcome to stay for 3 ____________.
2 Mike invites Ryan to 4 ________________ on 5 ________. Ryan cannot come, because he has to 6 __________________
to New York at the weekend.
next week
one month
a few days
come to the party
Saturday
prepare for the trip
Request Refusal
3 Jane would like to see Becky’s 7__________ for some ideas. Becky refuses because she
thinks it is better for Jane to
8 _____________________.
project
do her project by herself
Now talk about how the speakers make requests and refusals. Listen again if necessary.
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Conversation 1
Tina: Hi Kerry, have you got a minute
Kerry: Yeah, sure, Tina. What's up
Tina: Well, the thing is, I've got to leave my flat next week, but my new place won't be ready until next month. Could I stay at your place for a while
Kerry: You mean for a couple of days
Tina: Er. . .not exactly. For a month.
Kerry: A month I'm afraid one month is just too long.
Tina: Oh, come on, please. . .
Kerry: I'm sorry, but my room is just too small for two people. You're welcome to stay for a few days, though.
Conversation 2
Mike: Hello Ryan! Just the person I wanted to see!
Ryan: Hi Mike. How's it going
Mike: I'm having a party at my house on Saturday. You'll come, won't you
Ryan: On Saturday I'd love to, but I'm visiting my cousin in New York on Monday, and I have to spend the weekend preparing for the trip.
Mike: That's too bad. I'm sorry you'll miss it.
Ryan: Yes, I'm sorry, too. Next time, OK
Conversation 3
Jane: Becky, have you done your project yet
Becky: Hi Jane. You mean the one that's due tomorrow
Jane: Yes, that's the one.
Becky: Of course I have. Haven't you finished yours yet
Jane: No, I haven't. The thing is, I've been really busy and. . . Well, I was just wondering if you could let me see your project, just to give me some ideas, you know. . .
Becky: I'm not sure... It would be better to do your project by yourself.
Jane: I promise I won't copy it or anything like that.
Becky: I'm sorry, Jane, it just doesn't feel right. I'd be happy to talk about your project with you, though, if you need my help.
Now talk about how the speakers make requests and refusals.
requests
asking someone to do something for you
asking if you can do something
refusals
direct refusals
indirect refusals
vague refusals
Learning to learn
If you have to say no to a request, your refusal will sound more polite if you begin with a statement of regret, such as I’m sorry..., I’d really like to, but... Then explain why your answer is no, eg I’m really busy right now. If possible, suggest an alternative — How about next week？
Pair Work
Act out the conversation about asking for a favour and refusing politely.
Student A: Turn to Page 81.
Student B: Turn to Page 84.
Could / Can you …
Would you mind …
May I ask you to …
Oh you mean, …
Umm, not exactly…
I’m afraid…
Oh…I’d love to, but I’m…
Oh no…That’s too bad.
I was just wondering if you could…
I’m sorry that it just doesn’t feel right. Maybe we can…
Work in pairs. Act out the conversation about asking for a favour and refusing politely.
Student A
You will go on a trip with your family for two weeks and you would like to ask Student B to take care of your pet cat. Explain to him / her:
You’d like to send your pet cat to his / her flat to stay for 2 weeks.
Your cat is well-behaved and won’t make any trouble.
You will treat him / her to dinner when you come back.
Useful expressions
Have you got a minute
Hello…! Just the person I wanted to see.
Well, the thing is…
I was just wondering if you could…
I promise…
Oh, come on, please…
Student B
Student A would like you to do him / her a favour. You have to refuse politely. Explain to him / her:
You don’t want your room to be messy.
Your parents won’t allow it.
You know another classmate who likes cats and maybe he / she would like to help.
Useful expressions
What’s up
Oh, you mean…
I’m afraid…
I’m sorry, but…
I think it would be better to…
But maybe…
Techniques to say NO
Excuse yourself plainly.
Make a counter-offer.
Make another suggestion.
Have humility.
Speak in an honest way.
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Here is the situation: You need to go out at once because you have a date with your friend at the movie theatre. However, your mum asks you to help her do some cleaning. You want to say No to your mum. Make up a conversation between you and your mum.
Preview the next part: Developing ideas.
Homework
