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Unit 3 Getting along with others
Welcome & Reading
Two friends sit on a
friendship boat.
The boat of friendship
sank at once.
Lead-in
Unit 3 Getting along with others
Welcome & Reading
By the end of the class, we are supposed to:
know difficulty of keeping/maintaining a friendship
Understand Amy’s friendship and offer some good advice.
know how to maintain a friendship
Teenagers may have difficulty maintaining their friendships. Watch the video and finish the following exercises.
Bill’s problem:
Jane’s problem:
Harry’s problem:
not share the same interests
misses her best friend at junior.
too shy to make friends
with the other boys in his class.
Please advise!
1. “on the rocks” friendship
Prediction
forum exchange
Friendship on the rocks
01
My best friend and I have been close for eight years…Since then, a close friendship has grown between us and she’s been almost like a sister to me.... But last Saturday, she broke my heart, and I’m still picking up the pieces.
Detailed reading
Our original plan was to see a film at the cinema that afternoon. But in the morning, my friend posted a message on social media saying she had a cold…We can wait till you get better.”
Today, however, I received a horrible surprise. A classmate told me she had seen my friend chatting with another girl in a café on Saturday afternoon...
I was so angry that I avoided her during school all day, and I still don’t feel like responding to any of her online messages. The stress of this situation is killing me, and I’m at a loss what to do next.
before
last Saturday morning
last Saturday afternoon
Monday
Monday
evening
till now
1. What happened between Amy and Jenny
Jenny made (1) _______ with Amy in primary school. Since then, a (2)_______ friendship has (3) _______ between them.
According to Jenny’s online post, she was ill and might not be able to (4) _____ it to the cinema. Instead, Jenny was (5) _________ at home. Amy called and cancelled the appointment.
Jenny was seen having (6) ______ with someone else in a cafe .
Amy received a (7) _______ surprise and found out what Jenny did last Saturday afternoon.
Amy thought Jenny (8) _____ to her. She avoided Jenny and (9) _______ her online messages.
Amy felt Jenny broke her (10) _______ and posted her problem online for (11) ______. Amy is still picking up the (12) ______. The (13) ______ of the situation is killing her. She is at a (14) ______ what to do next.
before
last Saturday morning
last Saturday afternoon
Monday
Monday
evening
till now
friends
close
grown
make
recovering
fun
ignored
lied
advice
horrible
heart
pieces
stress
loss
1. What happened between Amy and Jenny
before
last Saturday morning
last Saturday afternoon
Monday
Monday
evening
till now
Changes of Amy’s feelings
happy
worried
shocked
angry
angry
heartbroken
confused
before last Saturday
morning
last Saturday
afternoon
Monday
Monday evening
till now
feelings
happy
worried
shocked
angry
angry
heartbroken
confused
Brainstorm
Why does Amy have all these feelings
Amy v_____ her friendship with Jenny, but she thinks her best friend has lied to her and betrayed(背叛)her t____.
alues
rust
Please Advise
02
Part 2. Please advise!
1. What are the pieces of advice from Cindy and David
2. Why do they think so
I’m so sorry! But this friendship is worth saving: eight years is a long time! Don’t be so quick to judge your friend. Perhaps she knows she’s in the wrong and wants to apologize, or maybe she has a simple explanation for her behaviour. In any case, find an opportunity to have a full and frank talk with her. Listen to what she has to say, and be sure to explain how you feel. I’m sure you can solve this problem together.
I definitely understand how you feel. I also had a friend whom I trusted a lot. When I found out that I was tricked by him, I was really hurt and let go of our friendship. I know you value your friendship and want your friend to value it equally. However, if your friend ignores your feelings or makes you suffer, it’s time to rethink your relationship. Talk to her and decide whether this friendship is still important to you. It’s sad to move on, but you have to accept that friends come and go in life.
* Maintaining a friendship
requires much t_____ and
e______;
* A misunderstanding is
possible, so e_________ is
necessary;
* Friends should work
together to solve the problem.
* time to rethink the relationship
* It's not worth saving a
friendship if a friend
ignores your feelings or
makes you suffer.
* It's natural that friends ____
______in life.
Why do they think so
ime
fforts
xplanation
come
and go
Similarity&differences
Have a talk
what’s the real reason
Keys: 1. horrible 2. at a loss
3. recovering 4. ignoring
5. responded 6. let go of
7. apologize 8. in the wrong
writing
03
What helpful advice can you offer Amy
Keep calm because conflicts in a friendship are natural;
Have a full and honest communication to clear up any misunderstanding;
Make an objective judgement;
Solve the problem together;
Have faith in one's friends and friendships;
...
Writing: write an advice letter to Amy!
I’m so sorry! But this friendship is
worth saving: eight years is a long
time! Don’t be so quick to judge
your friend. Perhaps she knows she’s
in the wrong and wants to apologize,
or maybe she has a simple explanation
for her behavior. In any case, find an
opportunity to have a full and frank talk
with her. Listen to what she has to say,
and be sure to explain how you feel.
I’m sure you can solve this problem together.
I definitely understand how you feel.
I also had a friend whom I trusted a lot.
When I found out that I was tricked
by him, I was really hurt and let go
of our friendship. I know you value
your friendship and want your friend
to value it equally. However, if your
friend ignores your feelings or makes
you suffer, it’s time to rethink your
relationship. Talk to her and decide
whether this friendship is still important to you. It’s sad to move on, but you have to accept that friends come and go in life.
how to write an advice letter
Writing: write an advice letter to Amy!
Expressions to show your sympathy同情心:
I’m sorry to hear that.
I hate it when that happens!
I know exactly what you mean.
Expressions to give advice:
Whatever you do, don’t.../ be sure to...
If I were you,I’d...
From my point of view,/In my view,...
it would be wise of you to...
It would be a good idea if...
Why not...
Suppose you are asked to write an advice letter to Amy, what will you say to her
Beginning (greeting)
(I’m sorry to hear that… i understand your feelings because…; the tips below might help you.)
Body(advice)
as far as I am concerned, it’s a good idea to…+explanation
Besides, why not…+explanation
last but not least, I feel that it would be helpful if you…+(explanation)
End(hope)
I hope these ideas will be of help.
Dear Amy,
I definitely understand your feelings because I was once betrayed by my friend. You must be at a loss what to do next. From my point of view, instead of being quick to judge, it is wise of you to have a full and frank talk with your friend, and then decide whether to rethink or to save this friendship. As an old saying goes, “The glory of a friendship is the spiritual inspiration when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you. ”
Yours sincerely,
A letter of Advice
To maintain our friendship, We should
Forgive
Respect
Ignore
Encourage
Need
Depend
Share
Help
Improve
Plan
Appreciation
The best thing in the world is a friend with several brains and upright hearts.
--- Albert Einstein
The older a friend is, the better. The older the wine is, the more fragrant it will be.
---John Ray
True friendship is a slow-growing plant.
---George Washington
Thank you!