外研版高中英语必修第三册Unit 1 Section ⅠStarting out & Understanding ideas—Comprehending课件
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主题语境:人与社会——如何建立并保持良好的人际关系与
开展社会交往
Unit 1 Knowing me, knowing you
大观念之单元话题:本单元主题围绕如何建立并保持良好的人际关系与开展社会交往展开,介绍了青少年常见的情绪表现和性格特点,帮助学生认识到自己和同龄人在成长过程中会遇到的人际关系问题,并学会正确看待和解决这些问题。旨在帮助学生对处理人际关系树立正确的态度,初步掌握处理人际关系的方法。
①diagnose / da ɡn z/v.诊断
②depression /d pre n/n.抑郁症
③moreover /m r v / adv.此外,而且
④help out 帮一把
⑤adjust to 适应
⑥be allergic to 对……过敏
类文悦读·情境导学
假如你在这所高中看到很多小动物,请不要惊讶。
This high school welcomes animals
A year ago, 16-year-old Wendy Chai, a student at Hialeah Gardens High School in Florida, met Snowball, an American Eskimo Dog.Wendy was diagnosed① with anxiety and depression② at age 13.Since Snowball came into her life, she has relied on Snowball to help her out④ through the day, thanks to a school program called Support Animals for Everyone (S.A.F.E.).
S.A.F.E.started in 2022.It allows some students to bring their emotional support animals to school.The program also provides animals during the day for students and staff who need them.
Wendy is now a volunteer for S.A.F.E.She shared how Snowball helps her adjust to⑤ the big and crowded school.“When I’m with Snowball, I focus on her instead of my anxiety.I’ve trained her to walk in circles around me to give me more space,” Wendy said.Snowball is also learning to notice when Wendy feels anxious.“I touch my leg when I’m nervous, and she picks up on it,” Wendy added.
Naomi Gallardo, the president of S.A.F.E., explained how animals help students relax, especially after exams.“We bring animals like dogs, cats, and rabbits, depending on what students like and what they aren’t allergic to⑥,” Naomi said.The program also hosts yearly events to raise awareness about mental health.“Many students feel stressed because of schoolwork.This program helps them relax and makes mental health a priority,” she added.Moreover③, teachers also benefit from S.A.F.E.
文 本 整 体 理 解
Step One:Pre-reading
Look at the following pictures and answer the questions.
1.Do you think you are good at interpersonal communication Why or why not
Possible answer:
I think I’m okay at interpersonal communication.I can talk to others easily, but sometimes I’m a bit shy to express my real feelings.That’s why I think I’m not extremely good at it, but not bad either.
2.If your friends share your secret with others, how do you deal with it
Possible answer:
If my friends share my secret with others, I will first talk to my friends and tell them how I feel.I hope they can understand that it’s not right to do so.Then I will consider whether I can still trust them in the future.
Step Two:While-reading
Ⅰ.Read for the main idea
What’s the main idea of the passage
A.That Agony Aunt asks Ben to keep silent for his teammates disappointed him.
B.Ben asks Agony Aunt to help him to win his match back.
C.Agony Aunt helps Ben out of his relationship problems.
D.Agony Aunt tells Ben to apologise to his friend for quarrels.
√
Ⅱ.Read for the structure
Read the passage again and fill in the blanks.
performance/behaviour
let off steam
embarrassed
Apologise
think
Ⅲ.Read for details
Read the passage carefully and choose the best answers.
1.What problem caused Ben to write a letter for help
A. He was caught in an awkward situation after a basketball match.
B.His teammate let out his secret to others.
C.His basketball team lost an important match.
D.He had bad academic performance at school.
√
2.What does the word “loose” mean in the sentence “Loose lips sink ships.”
A.Free.
B.Not exact.
C.Not strictly controlled.
D.Not firmly fastened.
√
3.What does Agony Aunt think of Ben’s behaviour
A.Favorable. B.Opposed.
C.Understandable. D.Admirable.
√
4.What is the most important according to Agony Aunt
A.Knowing yourself clearly first.
B.Making a clear communication.
C.Speaking your mind clearly in anger.
D.Giving other people a correct signal.
√
5.What is the main purpose of the second letter
A.To introduce how to repair friendship.
B.To propose the establishment of an Agony Aunt column.
C.To give suggestions to Ben.
D.To present some ways to resolve conflicts.
√
Step Three:Post-reading
Ⅰ.难句解构
1.I’m crazy about basketball,and pretty good at it too,which is probably why I was so mad when we lost our last match.
学会断句:此句为 句。which引导 从句;从句中why引导 从句,when引导 从句;主句中be crazy about意为“ ”。
尝试翻译：__________________________________________ ____
_________________________________________________________
我酷爱打篮球,而且打得也很好,也许正因如此,在我们队输掉了上一场比赛时我相当恼怒。
复合
非限制性定语
表语
时间状语
对……着迷
2.This means that if you speak too much about something,especially to people who you don’t know so well,it’ll cause all kinds of trouble.
学会断句:此句为 句。that引导 从句;从句中if引导 从句,who引导 从句,修饰 。
尝试翻译：__________________________________________ ____
_________________________________________________________
意思是说如果你对某件事说得太多,尤其是跟你不太了解的人说得太多,就会招来各种各样的麻烦。
复合
宾语
条件状语
定语
people
Ⅱ.翻转课堂(课文语法填空)
Ben, a 17-year-old boy, wrote to Agony Aunt,who helps out troubled readers with their concerns. Ben plays in his school basketball team and they just 1. (lose) their last match. He believes that the team was defeated due 2. their point guard’s poor performance. So, he expressed his anger to his best friend. To his surprise, his friend told everyone else what he had said, which made Ben so 3. (embarrass).
lost
to
embarrassed
Agony Aunt has given Ben a reply, 4. (say) “Loose lips sink ships”,5. means people shouldn’t talk carelessly because their words might cause trouble. 6. (help) Ben get out of trouble,Agony Aunt offers him some advice. Apologising to the teammate is the first thing he should do. Second, Ben should have 7. chat with his friend and try to mend the friendship although his friend’s behaviour has put him in a(n) 8. (pleasant) situation. Last, and perhaps most importantly,
saying
which
To help
a
unpleasant
Ben should calm down when filled with anger and never talk too much in case wrong signals might 9. (send) out. Taking your feelings as well as others’ into account will make everything go 10. (smooth).
be sent
smoothly
语 篇 助 解 释 疑
Absolute agony!
(Our Agony Aunt① answers your questions.)
Dear Agony Aunt,
I’m in a total mess② here—hope you can help me out③!
I’m 17, and a member of our school basketball team.I’m crazy about④ basketball, and pretty good at it too, which is probably why I was so mad when we lost our last match[1].We played well, but I felt
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the team were let down⑤ by one member, our point guard⑥.The point guard is a key player, but it was like he wasn’t even on the court! Disappointed by his behaviour[2], I said all this to my best friend.I was just letting off steam⑦ really, because I was so angry, but then my friend went and told everyone else what I’d said[3].
[1]which引导的是非限制性定语从句,修饰前面的主句。其中why引导表语从句,when引导时间状语从句。
[2]Disappointed by his behaviour 是过去分词短语在句中作状语,表示原因。
[3]what I’d said是宾语从句,在句中作谓语动词told的宾语。
This is so totally awkward⑧.I’m really angry with my friend—what should I say to him And should I say anything at all to my teammate
Embarrassed and ashamed, I can’t concentrate on⑨ anything.[4] Please help!
[4]Embarrassed and ashamed是过去分词形式的形容词短语,在句中作状语, 表示原因。
Ben
Dear Ben,
There is an old American saying, “Loose⑩ lips sink ships.” This means that if you speak too much about something, especially to people who you don’t know so well[5], it’ll cause all kinds of trouble.
[5]means后that引导的是宾语从句,宾语从句中又包含if引导的条件状语从句,该状语从句中又包含who引导的定语从句。
The situation here is so much worse because the “loose lips” were your best friend’s.Treated this way[6], you’re sure to feel hurt—we should always be able to trust those closest to us , and it hurts even more when we find we can’t.
[6]Treated this way是过去分词短语作状语,表示原因。
But I have to say that it’s partly your fault , isn’t it You admit that you were “letting off steam”.It is understandable in that situation, but we should always think before we speak.
Here’s what you need to do[7].First, apologise to your teammate. If you ever want to win any more basketball games (and I’m sure you do!), you need to work together, and that means communicating with each other clearly and resolving conflicts .So have a chat with your teammate.Tell him directly and honestly that you were talking without thinking.
[7]what引导的是表语从句。
Then, talk to your friend.Friendship should be one of the greatest things in the world, but sometimes it can be difficult.Again, your strategy is clear communication.Tell your friend you’re angry with him for repeating what you said and making the situation worse , but that you want to move on.Approached in this way, your friendship will soon be repaired.
Thirdly, and perhaps most importantly , think about your own behaviour.Don’t say too much when you’re angry! Filled with anger, you tend to say whatever comes to your mind.[8] This gives people the wrong signal .Take a deep breath , calm down , and always remember: think first, speak later.If you feel one of your teammates isn’t pulling their weight , then raise your concerns in a professional way with your team coach.
[8]Filled with anger是过去分词短语作状语,表示原因。be filled with “充满”。whatever引导的是宾语从句。
If you think about other people’s feelings as well as your own, you’ll soon find everything works out .
Good luck!
Agony Aunt
[名师圈点]
①agony / ɡ ni/ n.痛楚,苦难
agony aunt知心阿姨
②mess /mes/ n. (组织欠佳或人为导致的)麻烦,困境,混乱
in a mess一团糟
③help out帮一把
④be crazy about迷恋,热衷于
⑤let down使失望,辜负
⑥point guard(球队进攻的)控球后卫,组织后卫
⑦steam /sti m/ n.蒸汽,水蒸气
let off steam发泄怒火,宣泄情绪
⑧awkward / kw d/ adj.令人尴尬的,使人难堪的
⑨concentrate on集中精力于,全神贯注于
⑩loose /lu s/ adj.说话随便(轻率)的
lip /lIp/ n.(嘴)唇
sink /sI k/ v.使(船)沉没
loose lips sink ships祸从口出
closest to us和我们最亲近的
fault /f lt/ n.责任,过错
admit / d mIt/ v.承认,接纳
understandable / nd st nd bl/ adj.可以理解的;合情理的
communicate with与……交流
resolve /rI z lv/ v.解决(问题、困难)
conflict / k nflIkt/ n.冲突;矛盾
have a chat with 与……聊天
strategy / str t d i/ n.计谋,策略;行动计划
be angry with生气
make...worse 使……更糟糕
approach / pr t / v.着手处理,对付
most importantly 最重要的是
signal / sIɡn( )l/ n.信号;暗号
breath /breθ/ n.一口气
take a deep breath深呼吸
calm down冷静下来
pull one’s weight 做好分内事,尽责
concern /k n s n/ n.忧虑,担心
in a...way 以一种……的方式
as well as 和,也
work out解决,计算出
[译文参考]
深陷痛苦!
(我们的知心阿姨为你答疑解惑。)
亲爱的知心阿姨:
我现在完全是一团糟,希望您能帮我一把!
我17岁,是我们学校篮球队的一员。我酷爱打篮球,而且打得也很好,也许正因如此,在我们队输掉了上一场比赛时我相当恼怒。我们打得很好,但我觉得球队被一个队员拖了后腿——我们的控球后卫。控球后卫是个关键球员,但他好像根本就不在场上!我对他的行为感到失
望,并对我最好的朋友说了这一切。我真的只是发泄一下,因为我太生气了,可我的朋友随后却把我的话告诉了所有人。
这太让人尴尬了。我真的很生我朋友的气——我该对他说什么 我应该跟我的队友说点什么吗
我既尴尬又羞愧,什么事都不能集中精力。请帮帮我!
本
亲爱的本:
美国有句老话:“祸从口出。”意思是说如果你对某件事说得太多,尤其是跟你不太了解的人说得太多,就会招来各种各样的麻烦。
现在的情况更糟,因为“祸”是从你最好的朋友的嘴里出来的。被这样对待肯定会让你感到受伤——我们应该总是能够信任那些最亲近的人,当我们发现他们不能信任时,就更伤心了。
但我不得不说,这件事多少也有你的原因,是不是 你承认你在“发泄怒火”。在那种情况下,这是可以理解的,但我们说话前总要三思而后行。
这是你需要做的。首先,向你的队友道歉。如果你想赢得更多的篮球比赛(我相信你会的!),你们需要一起努力,这意味着要清晰地相互沟通,解决冲突。所以你和你的队友聊聊吧。坦诚地告诉他:你当时说话没有经过深思熟虑。
然后,和你的朋友谈谈。友谊应该是世界上最伟大的事情之一,但有时很难。同样,你的策略是清晰的沟通。告诉你的朋友,你对他重复你说的话并使情况恶化感到愤怒,但你想使友谊继续下去。这样一来,你们的友谊很快就会恢复。
第三,也许最重要的是,想想你自己的行为。生气的时候不要说太多!满腔怒火的时候,你往往想到什么就说什么。这会给人们(传递)错误的信号。深呼吸,冷静下来,永远记住:先思后言。如果你觉得你的队友没有尽责,那么就用专业的方式向你的教练提出你的担忧。
如果你考虑别人的感受和你自己的感受,你很快就会发现一切都解决了。
祝你好运!
知心阿姨
主题语境:人与社会——如何建立并保持良好的人际关系与
开展社会交往
Unit 1 Knowing me, knowing you
大观念之单元话题:本单元主题围绕如何建立并保持良好的人际关系与开展社会交往展开,介绍了青少年常见的情绪表现和性格特点,帮助学生认识到自己和同龄人在成长过程中会遇到的人际关系问题,并学会正确看待和解决这些问题。旨在帮助学生对处理人际关系树立正确的态度,初步掌握处理人际关系的方法。
①diagnose / da ɡn z/v.诊断
②depression /d pre n/n.抑郁症
③moreover /m r v / adv.此外,而且
④help out 帮一把
⑤adjust to 适应
⑥be allergic to 对……过敏
类文悦读·情境导学
假如你在这所高中看到很多小动物,请不要惊讶。
This high school welcomes animals
A year ago, 16-year-old Wendy Chai, a student at Hialeah Gardens High School in Florida, met Snowball, an American Eskimo Dog.Wendy was diagnosed① with anxiety and depression② at age 13.Since Snowball came into her life, she has relied on Snowball to help her out④ through the day, thanks to a school program called Support Animals for Everyone (S.A.F.E.).
S.A.F.E.started in 2022.It allows some students to bring their emotional support animals to school.The program also provides animals during the day for students and staff who need them.
Wendy is now a volunteer for S.A.F.E.She shared how Snowball helps her adjust to⑤ the big and crowded school.“When I’m with Snowball, I focus on her instead of my anxiety.I’ve trained her to walk in circles around me to give me more space,” Wendy said.Snowball is also learning to notice when Wendy feels anxious.“I touch my leg when I’m nervous, and she picks up on it,” Wendy added.
Naomi Gallardo, the president of S.A.F.E., explained how animals help students relax, especially after exams.“We bring animals like dogs, cats, and rabbits, depending on what students like and what they aren’t allergic to⑥,” Naomi said.The program also hosts yearly events to raise awareness about mental health.“Many students feel stressed because of schoolwork.This program helps them relax and makes mental health a priority,” she added.Moreover③, teachers also benefit from S.A.F.E.
文 本 整 体 理 解
Step One:Pre-reading
Look at the following pictures and answer the questions.
1.Do you think you are good at interpersonal communication Why or why not
Possible answer:
I think I’m okay at interpersonal communication.I can talk to others easily, but sometimes I’m a bit shy to express my real feelings.That’s why I think I’m not extremely good at it, but not bad either.
2.If your friends share your secret with others, how do you deal with it
Possible answer:
If my friends share my secret with others, I will first talk to my friends and tell them how I feel.I hope they can understand that it’s not right to do so.Then I will consider whether I can still trust them in the future.
Step Two:While-reading
Ⅰ.Read for the main idea
What’s the main idea of the passage
A.That Agony Aunt asks Ben to keep silent for his teammates disappointed him.
B.Ben asks Agony Aunt to help him to win his match back.
C.Agony Aunt helps Ben out of his relationship problems.
D.Agony Aunt tells Ben to apologise to his friend for quarrels.
√
Ⅱ.Read for the structure
Read the passage again and fill in the blanks.
performance/behaviour
let off steam
embarrassed
Apologise
think
Ⅲ.Read for details
Read the passage carefully and choose the best answers.
1.What problem caused Ben to write a letter for help
A. He was caught in an awkward situation after a basketball match.
B.His teammate let out his secret to others.
C.His basketball team lost an important match.
D.He had bad academic performance at school.
√
2.What does the word “loose” mean in the sentence “Loose lips sink ships.”
A.Free.
B.Not exact.
C.Not strictly controlled.
D.Not firmly fastened.
√
3.What does Agony Aunt think of Ben’s behaviour
A.Favorable. B.Opposed.
C.Understandable. D.Admirable.
√
4.What is the most important according to Agony Aunt
A.Knowing yourself clearly first.
B.Making a clear communication.
C.Speaking your mind clearly in anger.
D.Giving other people a correct signal.
√
5.What is the main purpose of the second letter
A.To introduce how to repair friendship.
B.To propose the establishment of an Agony Aunt column.
C.To give suggestions to Ben.
D.To present some ways to resolve conflicts.
√
Step Three:Post-reading
Ⅰ.难句解构
1.I’m crazy about basketball,and pretty good at it too,which is probably why I was so mad when we lost our last match.
学会断句:此句为 句。which引导 从句;从句中why引导 从句,when引导 从句;主句中be crazy about意为“ ”。
尝试翻译：__________________________________________ ____
_________________________________________________________
我酷爱打篮球,而且打得也很好,也许正因如此,在我们队输掉了上一场比赛时我相当恼怒。
复合
非限制性定语
表语
时间状语
对……着迷
2.This means that if you speak too much about something,especially to people who you don’t know so well,it’ll cause all kinds of trouble.
学会断句:此句为 句。that引导 从句;从句中if引导 从句,who引导 从句,修饰 。
尝试翻译：__________________________________________ ____
_________________________________________________________
意思是说如果你对某件事说得太多,尤其是跟你不太了解的人说得太多,就会招来各种各样的麻烦。
复合
宾语
条件状语
定语
people
Ⅱ.翻转课堂(课文语法填空)
Ben, a 17-year-old boy, wrote to Agony Aunt,who helps out troubled readers with their concerns. Ben plays in his school basketball team and they just 1. (lose) their last match. He believes that the team was defeated due 2. their point guard’s poor performance. So, he expressed his anger to his best friend. To his surprise, his friend told everyone else what he had said, which made Ben so 3. (embarrass).
lost
to
embarrassed
Agony Aunt has given Ben a reply, 4. (say) “Loose lips sink ships”,5. means people shouldn’t talk carelessly because their words might cause trouble. 6. (help) Ben get out of trouble,Agony Aunt offers him some advice. Apologising to the teammate is the first thing he should do. Second, Ben should have 7. chat with his friend and try to mend the friendship although his friend’s behaviour has put him in a(n) 8. (pleasant) situation. Last, and perhaps most importantly,
saying
which
To help
a
unpleasant
Ben should calm down when filled with anger and never talk too much in case wrong signals might 9. (send) out. Taking your feelings as well as others’ into account will make everything go 10. (smooth).
be sent
smoothly
语 篇 助 解 释 疑
Absolute agony!
(Our Agony Aunt① answers your questions.)
Dear Agony Aunt,
I’m in a total mess② here—hope you can help me out③!
I’m 17, and a member of our school basketball team.I’m crazy about④ basketball, and pretty good at it too, which is probably why I was so mad when we lost our last match[1].We played well, but I felt
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the team were let down⑤ by one member, our point guard⑥.The point guard is a key player, but it was like he wasn’t even on the court! Disappointed by his behaviour[2], I said all this to my best friend.I was just letting off steam⑦ really, because I was so angry, but then my friend went and told everyone else what I’d said[3].
[1]which引导的是非限制性定语从句,修饰前面的主句。其中why引导表语从句,when引导时间状语从句。
[2]Disappointed by his behaviour 是过去分词短语在句中作状语,表示原因。
[3]what I’d said是宾语从句,在句中作谓语动词told的宾语。
This is so totally awkward⑧.I’m really angry with my friend—what should I say to him And should I say anything at all to my teammate
Embarrassed and ashamed, I can’t concentrate on⑨ anything.[4] Please help!
[4]Embarrassed and ashamed是过去分词形式的形容词短语,在句中作状语, 表示原因。
Ben
Dear Ben,
There is an old American saying, “Loose⑩ lips sink ships.” This means that if you speak too much about something, especially to people who you don’t know so well[5], it’ll cause all kinds of trouble.
[5]means后that引导的是宾语从句,宾语从句中又包含if引导的条件状语从句,该状语从句中又包含who引导的定语从句。
The situation here is so much worse because the “loose lips” were your best friend’s.Treated this way[6], you’re sure to feel hurt—we should always be able to trust those closest to us , and it hurts even more when we find we can’t.
[6]Treated this way是过去分词短语作状语,表示原因。
But I have to say that it’s partly your fault , isn’t it You admit that you were “letting off steam”.It is understandable in that situation, but we should always think before we speak.
Here’s what you need to do[7].First, apologise to your teammate. If you ever want to win any more basketball games (and I’m sure you do!), you need to work together, and that means communicating with each other clearly and resolving conflicts .So have a chat with your teammate.Tell him directly and honestly that you were talking without thinking.
[7]what引导的是表语从句。
Then, talk to your friend.Friendship should be one of the greatest things in the world, but sometimes it can be difficult.Again, your strategy is clear communication.Tell your friend you’re angry with him for repeating what you said and making the situation worse , but that you want to move on.Approached in this way, your friendship will soon be repaired.
Thirdly, and perhaps most importantly , think about your own behaviour.Don’t say too much when you’re angry! Filled with anger, you tend to say whatever comes to your mind.[8] This gives people the wrong signal .Take a deep breath , calm down , and always remember: think first, speak later.If you feel one of your teammates isn’t pulling their weight , then raise your concerns in a professional way with your team coach.
[8]Filled with anger是过去分词短语作状语,表示原因。be filled with “充满”。whatever引导的是宾语从句。
If you think about other people’s feelings as well as your own, you’ll soon find everything works out .
Good luck!
Agony Aunt
[名师圈点]
①agony / ɡ ni/ n.痛楚,苦难
agony aunt知心阿姨
②mess /mes/ n. (组织欠佳或人为导致的)麻烦,困境,混乱
in a mess一团糟
③help out帮一把
④be crazy about迷恋,热衷于
⑤let down使失望,辜负
⑥point guard(球队进攻的)控球后卫,组织后卫
⑦steam /sti m/ n.蒸汽,水蒸气
let off steam发泄怒火,宣泄情绪
⑧awkward / kw d/ adj.令人尴尬的,使人难堪的
⑨concentrate on集中精力于,全神贯注于
⑩loose /lu s/ adj.说话随便(轻率)的
lip /lIp/ n.(嘴)唇
sink /sI k/ v.使(船)沉没
loose lips sink ships祸从口出
closest to us和我们最亲近的
fault /f lt/ n.责任,过错
admit / d mIt/ v.承认,接纳
understandable / nd st nd bl/ adj.可以理解的;合情理的
communicate with与……交流
resolve /rI z lv/ v.解决(问题、困难)
conflict / k nflIkt/ n.冲突;矛盾
have a chat with 与……聊天
strategy / str t d i/ n.计谋,策略;行动计划
be angry with生气
make...worse 使……更糟糕
approach / pr t / v.着手处理,对付
most importantly 最重要的是
signal / sIɡn( )l/ n.信号;暗号
breath /breθ/ n.一口气
take a deep breath深呼吸
calm down冷静下来
pull one’s weight 做好分内事,尽责
concern /k n s n/ n.忧虑,担心
in a...way 以一种……的方式
as well as 和,也
work out解决,计算出
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深陷痛苦!
(我们的知心阿姨为你答疑解惑。)
亲爱的知心阿姨:
我现在完全是一团糟,希望您能帮我一把!
我17岁,是我们学校篮球队的一员。我酷爱打篮球,而且打得也很好,也许正因如此,在我们队输掉了上一场比赛时我相当恼怒。我们打得很好,但我觉得球队被一个队员拖了后腿——我们的控球后卫。控球后卫是个关键球员,但他好像根本就不在场上!我对他的行为感到失
望,并对我最好的朋友说了这一切。我真的只是发泄一下,因为我太生气了,可我的朋友随后却把我的话告诉了所有人。
这太让人尴尬了。我真的很生我朋友的气——我该对他说什么 我应该跟我的队友说点什么吗
我既尴尬又羞愧,什么事都不能集中精力。请帮帮我!
本
亲爱的本:
美国有句老话:“祸从口出。”意思是说如果你对某件事说得太多,尤其是跟你不太了解的人说得太多,就会招来各种各样的麻烦。
现在的情况更糟,因为“祸”是从你最好的朋友的嘴里出来的。被这样对待肯定会让你感到受伤——我们应该总是能够信任那些最亲近的人,当我们发现他们不能信任时,就更伤心了。
但我不得不说,这件事多少也有你的原因,是不是 你承认你在“发泄怒火”。在那种情况下,这是可以理解的,但我们说话前总要三思而后行。
这是你需要做的。首先,向你的队友道歉。如果你想赢得更多的篮球比赛(我相信你会的!),你们需要一起努力,这意味着要清晰地相互沟通,解决冲突。所以你和你的队友聊聊吧。坦诚地告诉他:你当时说话没有经过深思熟虑。
然后,和你的朋友谈谈。友谊应该是世界上最伟大的事情之一,但有时很难。同样,你的策略是清晰的沟通。告诉你的朋友,你对他重复你说的话并使情况恶化感到愤怒,但你想使友谊继续下去。这样一来,你们的友谊很快就会恢复。
第三,也许最重要的是,想想你自己的行为。生气的时候不要说太多!满腔怒火的时候,你往往想到什么就说什么。这会给人们(传递)错误的信号。深呼吸,冷静下来,永远记住:先思后言。如果你觉得你的队友没有尽责,那么就用专业的方式向你的教练提出你的担忧。
如果你考虑别人的感受和你自己的感受,你很快就会发现一切都解决了。
祝你好运!
知心阿姨