Book 6 Module1 Small talk
How Good are Your Social Skills
一、随堂学案
Teaching Objectives:
◆ Knowledge and skills
1. To enrich students’ knowledge about small talk and social skills.
2. To develop students’ basic reading skills: skimming, scanning and careful reading.
3. To make students know how to make a small talk.
◆ Process and methods
1. By skimming, scanning and careful reading, students can improve their reading skills.
2. By having a discussion in groups, students can develop their teamwork spirit.
3. By practicing social skills, students can improve their ability to communicate.
◆ Emotional attitude and value
1. To enable students to be polite and show respect for others when communicating with others.
2. To promote students’ awareness of teamwork spirit.
3. To develop students’ awareness of cross-culture.
Teaching Procedures:
Step 1: Lead-in
Show a short video and ask them to find out the topics and pay attention to the characters’ body language.
A psychological test—How good are your social skills?:
1. Have you ever crossed the road to avoid talking to someone you recognize?
Yes ( ) No ( )
2. Would you love to go to a party and talk confidently to every guest?
Yes ( ) No ( )
3. Do you want to make more friends but lack the confidence to talk to people you don’t know?
Yes ( ) No ( )
4. Are you nervous about the idea of being at a social event in another country?
Yes ( ) No ( )
5. Are you brave enough to talk to a foreigner you meet in the supermarket?
Yes ( ) No ( )
Step 2: Fast-reading
Look through the text quickly and answer this question.
How many tips are given in the text and what are they?
________________________________________________________________________
Step 3 Careful- reading
Tip One: Learn how to do small talk.
Read this part carefully and answer this question:
1. What kind of openers could be small talk?
______________________________________________________________________
2. Brainstorm: what are high-risk conversation openers?
______________________________________________________________________
3. Why are some topics considered low-risk openers and some are high-risk ones? (An open question)
______________________________________________________________________
★Pair work: Choose one topic and make small talk with your partner.
Tip Two: Develop your listening skills.
Dos
Don’ts
Deep thinking:
1. All the above dos show that ____________________________________.
2. And all the above don’ts show that__________________________________.
★Pair work: Make small talk with your partner with proper listening skills
Tip Three: Learn the rules.
Read the last part carefully and answer this question.
What social rules should you know when you go to a social occasion?
_____________________________________________________________________
Step Four Summary
How to make small talk?
________________________________________________________________________
Step Five Post reading
Task One: Show time
Choose one occasion and make small talk in groups.
1. You are attending a friend’s birthday party, talking with your classmates whom you haven’t seen for a long time.
2. On Monday morning, one of your friends comes into the classroom with a new hairstyle. You come up to say hello.
Task Two: Writing
Tom, your pen pal has a problem. He will visit a Chinese middle school and have a short stay in a Chinese family, and he needs your help on how to get along with his host family. Please finish the following reply to him within 50 words. The content is as follows:
1. Topics they always talk about.
2. Bring a gift when visiting a family and pay attention to address forms（称呼语）.
Dear Tom,
I’m delighted to know that you are coming to China. I am sure that you will experience a totally different culture here. My suggestions on how to get along with your host family are as follows.
________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
I hope that the advice could be of some help to you.
Looking forward to your reply.
Yours,
Li Hua
Step Six Homework:
1. Perfect your writing.
2. Surf the Internet and find more information about social skills of different countries.
二、课后练习
A. Complete the sentences with the correct form of the words in the box.
sigh yawn nod avoid lack smile
1. When I meet strangers, I don't like to talk about myself, so I ____ answering personal questions.
2. There are very few foreign visitors to my town, so we ___ the opportunity to meet people from other countries.
3. I said that we don't have enough opportunity to speak English and he ____ his head in agreement
4. I think the man I spoke to was tired —he _______ a lot.
5. He looked very sad when I asked him about his home. He _____ when he answered me.
6. I felt very welcome when I arrived at the party. The host _____ at me and shook my hand.
B. Reading Comprehension
Girls can easily sad. If your friend is feeling blue and calls you, what will you do? Here are some tips on how you can make her smile again.
Listen to her. When people feel sad, they often have the feeling of needing to be heard. So, listen carefully to what she is saying and do nothing else. Your friend will surely thank you for being the shoulder she can cry on.
Once you are done with listening, you can offer some advice or remain silent and let her feel everything and let it all out by crying. As a friend, you might think you should give her some advice. But if you have no idea about what to say, just remain silent and be there for her.
In order to be able to help your friend in need, don't be sad for yourself. How can you help your friend when you are also feeling down?
A hug can make a difference in the world. It makes you feel warm and special. A hug makes you feel safe. So give your friend a hug when she needs it the most.
Spend more time with your friend who wants to be happy. Do things together like washing dishes, cleaning, or going out for fun. The more time you spend together, the stronger your friendship will become.
Sometimes, it is much better that you avoid a crying friend in your life. But by doing so, you are also keeping your friend at a distance and will make her wonder if you are her true friend. If you are there when she needs you, your friendship will be much stronger.
1．The writer wrote this passage mainly to tell us ________.
A. why girls can easily get sad
B. what to do when we are sad
C. how to make new friends with girls
D. how to make a sad female friend happy again
2．According to Paragraph 2, when a female friend is sad, what should we do ?
A. We should ask her why she feels sad.
B. We should say something nice to her.
C. We should spend time listening to her.
D. We should give her some good advice.
3．We can learn from the passage that ________.
A. hugging a sad friend can make you feel warm and special
B. your sad friend may feel much better if you are also sad
C. it's not a good idea to be silent facing a sad friend
D. giving a hug to a sad friend is very helpful
4．The last paragraph shows that ________.
A. every dog has its day
B. a friend in need is a friend indeed
C. where there's a will, there is a way
D. two heads are better than one
C. Reading for fun
Talking is such a simple task, right? Not exactly. Aside from being the enemy of anyone who recalls having a cellphone before the age of 5, or who prefers the company of their dog, it’s a delicate balancing act of you and another person trying desperately not to offend one another. Sure, you can debrief on the weather, the traffic, your resume, or the election. Unfortunately, outside of getting into a full on conversation about your recent cataracts diagnosis, you’re basically out of topics. Now what?
I’ve taken it upon myself to give you a step-by-step guide.
1. Get to know your audience before meeting them
This is also known as light social media stalking. What are some of the person’s interests? Do they align with your own? Maybe you like the same football team, or have a mutual friend. Wouldn’t it be cool if you both attended that Anthony Green concert back in October? Premeditated similarities always lead to more meaningful follow-up questions.
2. Figure out your fears
Sitting cowardly in the corner with your arms crossed doesn’t exactly say “nice to meet you.” Despite my own urge to avoid the milk aisle when I spot someone from high school, there are typically specific fears associated with that possible encounter. Work on identifying those fears. Are you embarrassed of the way that you are dressed? Maybe you’re unsure how to greet this colleague: handshake terms or hugging terms? Narrow in on your anxieties. There’s always a logical solution lurking behind your fear.
3. Repeat their name
People are like dogs. They’re generally happy to see you, and they love to hear their name. If you know a person’s name, attach it to the end of every greeting and departure. The goal is to avoid sounding robotic. If you don’t know a person’s name, that is the perfect opportunity to introduce yourself, and ask them for their name. Just remember to repeat their name back to them. Seriously, it’s never too much.
4. Don’t be afraid to expand
I always assumed no one would be interested in hearing about that time when I lost my grandmother at Walgreens. Surprisingly enough, people respond to enthusiastic storytelling. A quick, two-word answer such as “sure is” is just a dead-end under construction, so elaborate a little. As long as you think it’s entertaining, they’ll think it’s entertaining.
5. Show them a picture
Every comedy from the 80’s had a proud parent of at least 11 miracles, and a wallet full of their headshots. Since a picture is worth a thousand words, feel free to show off your proof of purchase. Whether it’s your kid, a dog, a car, that crepe or those pants, it will always enhance your story.
6. Do not repeat them
Them: It’s a nice party.
You: It is a nice party!
Them: Did you take Route One?
You: I did take Route One!
Them: Don’t you think the weather is lovely?
You: The weather is lovely!
See what I mean? This is going nowhere fast.
7. Open up a bit
If the conversation is going well, feel free to reveal something more personal about yourself. Being honest and light-hearted about a recent shortcoming humanizes you. “I used to be a quarterback myself, but I’m a big fan of donuts… if you couldn’t tell.” Just be sure to follow up with how you’re working on the issue. Much like the traditional interview question what is your biggest weakness, you’ll want to end your story with a concrete solution.
8. Change your mindset
If you approach small talk with the idea that it is going to be boring and full of dead space, it will. You already know all of the basics. Make eye contact. Be polite. Ask follow-up questions. Now, assume that this person will get a kick out of you, and your approach will be a lot more… approachable.
9. Time’s up
Finally, learn to identify exit cues. If someone is physically leaning in the opposite direction, or halfway out the door, it’s probably time to wrap it up. Looking at a watch or making eye contact with another colleague is very rude, but (unfortunately) widely accepted. So, learn to close strong. It’s been nice talking to them. You should get together. Exchange contact information, and if you can, bring them along as you transition into your next conversation.
Keys：
A. 1. avoid 2. lack 3. nodded 4. yawned 5. sighed 6.smiled
B. DCDB
Book 6 Module1 Small talk
How Good are Your Social Skills
Teaching Objectives:
◆ Knowledge and skills
1. To enrich students’ knowledge about small talk and social skills.
2. To develop students’ basic reading skills: skimming, scanning and careful reading.
3. To make students know how to make a small talk.
◆ Process and methods
1. By skimming, scanning and careful reading, students can improve their reading skills.
2. By having a discussion in groups, students can develop their teamwork spirit.
3. By practicing social skills, students can improve their ability to communicate.
◆ Emotional attitude and value
1. To enable students to be polite and show respect for others when communicating with others.
2. To promote students’ awareness of teamwork spirit.
3. To develop students’ awareness of cross-culture.
Teaching Focus:
Students can get familiar with the social skills and put them into practice.
Teaching Difficulties：
Student can use these skills properly.
Teaching Procedures:
Step One: Lead-in
Show students a short video and ask them to find out the topics and pay attention to the characters’ body language.
A psychological test—How good are your social skills?:
1. Have you ever crossed the road to avoid talking to someone you recognize?
Yes ( ) No ( )
2. Would you love to go to a party and talk confidently to every guest?
Yes ( ) No ( )
3. Do you want to make more friends but lack the confidence to talk to people you don’t know?
Yes ( ) No ( )
4. Are you nervous about the idea of being at a social event in another country?
Yes ( ) No ( )
5. Are you brave enough to talk to a foreigner you meet in the supermarket?
Yes ( ) No ( )
Step Two: Fast-reading
Look through the text quickly and answer this question.
How many tips are given in the text and what are they?
Three. Learn how to do small talk; develop your listening skills and learn the rules.
Step Three Careful- reading
Tip One: Learn how to do small talk.
Read this part carefully and answer this question:
1. What kind of openers could be small talk?
A recent news story, something about studies, people’s opinion about music, sport, films…
2. Brainstorm: what are high-risk conversation openers?
Age, weight, marriage ,religion, politics, income
3. Why are some topics considered low-risk openers and some are high-risk ones? (An open question)
______________________________________________________________________________
★Pair work: Choose one topic and make small talk with your partner.
Tip Two: Develop your listening skills.
Dos
Don’ts
use encouraging noises and gestures
look at your watch
keep good eye contact
yawn
use positive body language
sigh
ask for more information
look away
change the subject
finish other people’s sentences for them
Deep thinking:
1. All the above dos show that the listener is interested in the topic and respects the speaker.
2. And all the above don’ts show that the listener is bored with the topic and disrespects the speaker.
★Pair work: Make small talk with your partner with proper listening skills
Tip Three: Learn the rules.
Read the last part carefully and answer this question.
What social rules should you know when you go to a social occasion?
The arriving time, the length of stay and rules about gifts.
Step Four Summary
How to make small talk?
Choose a proper topic, try to be a good listener and observe social rules.
Step Five Post reading
★Task One: Show time
Choose one occasion and make small talk in groups.
1. You are attending a friend’s birthday party, talking with your classmates whom you haven’t seen for a long time.
2. On Monday morning, one of your friends comes into the classroom with a new hairstyle. You come up to say hello.
★Task Two: Writing
Tom, your pen pal has a problem. He will visit a Chinese middle school and have a short stay in a Chinese family, and he needs your help on how to get along with his host family. Please finish the following reply to him within 50 words. The content is as follows:
1. Topics they always talk about.
2. Bring a gift when visiting a family and pay attention to address forms（称呼语）.
Dear Tom,
I’m delighted to know that you are coming to China. I am sure that you will experience a totally different culture here. My suggestions on how to get along with your host family are as follows.
____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________
I hope that the advice could be of some help to you.
Looking forward to your reply.
Yours,
Li Hua
Step Six Homework:
1. Perfect your writing.
2. Surf the Internet and find more information about social skills of different countries.
课件30张PPT。Book 6 Module 1
How Good Are Your Social Skills？
How good are your social skills?A Psychological Test 2. Would you love to go to a party and talk confidently to every guest?
3. Do you want to make more friends but lack the confidence to talk to people you don’t know?
4. Are you nervous about the idea of being at a social event in another country?
5. Are you afraid to talk to a foreigner you meet in the supermarket?
1. Have you ever crossed the road to avoid talking to someone you recognize? Test Result3 or more than 3 No’s3 or more than 3 Yes’s You have good social skills and can communicate well, knowing how to have a conversation. You get along well with others and may have many friends. Test Result3 or more than 3 No’s3 or more than 3 Yes’s You are a little shy and have no idea how to communicate with others. Your social skills need improving badly. You should be brave to open your hearts to others and hope that you can be more talkative.I can help!I can help!Fast readingHow many tips are given in the text? What are they?Learn the rulesLearn how to do small talkDevelop your listening skills Tip 1
Tip 2Tip 3subtitlesLearn the rulesLearn how to do small talkDevelop your listening skills Tip 1
Tip 2Tip 3 Do small talkHaving __________________________ ready:A recent news storyyour studies (subjects)Ask people’s opinion about music, sport, films…low-risk conversation openers Why are some topics considered low-risk openers and some are high-risk ones?Please find one topic and make small talk with your partner. PracticeLearn the rulesA good speakerDevelop your listening skills Tip 1
Tip 2Tip 3use encouraging noises and gestureskeep good eye contactuse positive body languageask for more informationlook at your watchyawnsighlook awaychange the subjectfinish other people’s sentences for themFill in the blanksinterested
respectbored
disrespectMake small talk with your partner with proper listening skills.PracticeLearn the rulesA good speakerA good listener Tip 1
Tip 2Tip 3What rules should you know when you go to a social occasion?Learn the rulesThe arriving time The length of stay Rules about gifts
When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
SummaryHow to make small talk?Make up small talk according to the given situations. Please make full use of the social skills you have developed.Show TimeYou are attending a friend’s birthday party, talking with your classmates whom you haven’t seen for a long time.
2. On Monday morning, one of your friends
comes into the classroom with a new hairstyle.
You come up to say hello. 1. You are attending a friend’s birthday party, talking with your classmates whom you haven’t seen for a long time.
2. On Monday morning, one of your classmates comes into the classroom with a new hairstyle. You come up to say hello. Group Work I hope that you can be a person with politeness and high quality, so that people around you will feel happy and comfortable and thus like being together with you.Teacher’s words One of your pen pals, Tom, has a problem. He will visit a Chinese middle school and have a short stay in a Chinese family. Now he needs your help on how to get along with them. Please finish the following reply to him within 50 words. The content is as follows:
1. Topics they always talk about.
2. Bring a gift when visiting a family and pay attention to address forms（称呼语）.Homework1. Perfect your writing.
2. Surf the Internet and find more
information about social skills of
different countries.Thank you!
